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The one that got away

READING TWICE

by Mark J. Macapagal

The one that got away

In your life, you’ll make note of a lot of people. Ones with whom you shared something special, ones who will always mean something. There’s

the one you first kissed, the one you first loved, the one you lost

your virginity to, the one you put on a pedestal, the one you’re with

… and the one that got away.

Who is the one that got away? I guess it’s that person with who everything was great, everything was perfect, but the timing was just wrong. There was no fault in the person, there was no flaw in the chemistry, but the cards just didn’t fall the right way, I suppose.

I believe in the fact that ending up with someone, finding a longtime partner that is, does not lie merely in the other person. I can actually argue that an equal part, or maybe even the greater part, has to do

with the matter of timing. It has to do with you being ready to settle

down and commit to someone in a way that goes beyond the little

niceties of giddy romance.

How often have you gone through it without even realizing it? When

you’re not ready to commit in that mature manner, it doesn’t matter who

you’re with, it just doesn’t work. Small problems become big;

inconsequentials become dealbreakers simply because you’re not ready

and it shows. It’s not that you and the person you’re with are no good;

it’s just that it’s not yet right, and little things become the

flashpoint of that fact.

Then one day you’re ready. You really are. And when this happens you’ll

be ready to settle down with someone. He or she may not be the most

perfect, they might not be the brightest star of romance to ever have

burned in your life, but it’ll work because you’re ready. It’ll work

because it’s the right time and you’ll make it work. And it’ll make

sense, it really will.

So that day comes when you’re finally making sense of things, and you

find yourself to be a different person. Things are different, your

approach is different, you finally understand who you are and what you

want, and you’ve become ready because the time has truly arrived. And

mind you, there’s no telling when this day will come. Hopefully you’re

single but you could be in a long-term relationship, you could be

married with three kids, it doesn’t matter. All you know is that you’ve

changed, and for some reason, the one that got away, is the first

person you think about.

You’ll think about them because you’ll wonder, "What if they were here

today?" You’ll wonder, "What if we were together now, with me as I am

and not as I was?" That’s what the one that got away is. The biggest

"What if?" you’ll have in your life.

If you’re married, you’ll just have to accept the fact that the one

that got away, got away. Believe me, no matter how fairy tale you think

your marriage is, this can happen to the best of us. But hopefully

you’re mature enough to realize that you’re already with the one you’re

with and this is just another test of your commitment, one which will

just strengthen your marriage when you get past it. Sure, you’ll think

about him/her every so often, but it’s alright. It’s never nice to live

with a "might have been," but it happens.

Maybe the one that got away is the one who’s already married. In which

case it’s the same thing. You just have to accept and know that your

memories of that person will probably bring a nice little smile to your

lips in the in the future when you’re old and gray and reminiscing.

But if neither of that is the case, then it’s different. What do you do if it’s not yet too late? Simple … find him, find her. Because the very existence of a "one that got away" means that you’ll always wonder, what if you got that one?

Ask him out to coffee, ask her out to a movie, it doesn’t matter if you’ve dropped in from out of nowhere. You’be surprised, you just might be "the one that got away" as well for the person who is your "the one that got away."

You might drop in from out of nowhere and it won’t make a difference. If the timing is finally right, it’ll all just fall into place somehow and you know, I’m thinking, it would be a great feeling, in the end, to be able to say to someone, "Hey you, you’re the one that almost got away."